Thank you for reaffirming why I kicked my last relationship to the curb. I am a tried and true empath and consider myself a good judge of character with many years of shifting through the damage done by a mother with narcissistic personality disorder yet there I was 2 months in starting to see the cracks in his shiny armor. I actually questioned myself about what I was experiencing and being routinely gaslit. He even asked me to explain what that was. My psychic intuition was constantly telling me the truth. He was a master at what you describe. I come from a long line of family members who are adept at these traits. The inner longing for core connections, love, validation I never received from my family made me susceptible to allowing this person into my life. I even had a dream very attractive Spanish man at his face next to mine and in the dream my higher wisdom kept saying over and over Diablo Diablo Diablo a.k.a. devil
When I broke up with him he was astonished and of course blamed me while trying to elevate how great a person he was and how can I do this to him. Self-awareness, connection and alignment to individual intuition is the key to recognizing a dangerous person. Run as fast as you can